1: 1: Getting better at getting better is what RiseWithDrew is all about.
Monday through Thursday, we explore ideas from authors, thought leaders, and exemplary organizations. On Friday, I share something about myself or what we are working on at PCI.
This week, we’ve been exploring Barbara Fredrickson‘s research regarding what she calls Love 2.0 in the book of the same name.
Barbara is a scientist. Science tells us … continue reading
1: Love doesn’t spring up randomly, Barbara Fredrickson writes in her book Love 2.0: Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection.
“It emerges within certain circumstances,” she notes, “stemming from particular patterns of thought and action.
“These are love’s bedrock prerequisites.”
The first condition? A perception of safety.
“If we assess our current circumstances as threatening or dangerous in any way,” Barbara writes, “love is not at that moment … continue reading
1: It was the opening game of the 1995 football season for the University of Michigan Wolverines.
Professor Barbara Fredrickson was a new member of the faculty. A colleague had encouraged her and her husband to attend the game because “that’s what we do here.”
So off they went, he recalls in her book Love 2.0: Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection.
Together, they entered one of … continue reading
1: Scientists believe love is an emotion.
Love is “the micro-moment of warmth and connection that we share with another living being,” Barbara Fredrickson writes in her book Love 2.0: Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection.
Yesterday, we explored how we can be intentional about amplifying the love we experience in our deepest and most important relationships.
Understanding this reality, we can choose to create more … continue reading
1: The research shows that “couples who regularly make time to do new and exciting things together—like hiking, skiing, dancing, or attending concerts and plays—have better-quality marriages,” Barbara Fredrickson writes in her book Love 2.0: Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection.
What’s going on here?
Barbara is a scientist. And science tells us love is an emotion. But not just any emotion. It is the “supreme emotion,” Barbara … continue reading
1: Getting better at getting better is what RiseWithDrew is all about.
Monday through Thursday, we explore ideas from authors, thought leaders, and exemplary organizations. On Friday, I share something about myself or what we are working on at PCI.
For many years, my go-to recovery activity after a long day was television. Along with a cold beer or a glass of wine.
The only problem with this approach?
It … continue reading
1: We’ve just had an intense “flow state” experience.
We’ve been completely absorbed in the activity, losing our sense of time. Our actions and awareness have melded together, and we’ve felt a powerful sense of being in control.
We’ve successfully traveled through the first three stages of the flow cycle: Struggle, release, and then flow.
How do we feel?
Likely, we’re wiped out. “Even the extra energy … continue reading
1: Psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi’s believed he discovered the “secret to happiness.”
He labeled it “the flow state.” It’s when we are completely absorbed in an activity. Also known as being “in the zone,” we lose our sense of time. Our actions and awareness become one in which we have a heightened sense of control.
We enter the flow state through as part of a four-step process. So far this week, … continue reading
1: We come home from work tired. We’ve struggled to solve a problem. We decide to take a shower. To wash away all our frustrations.
Standing there, we feel the water beating against our bodies. We relax. Our mind wanders.
Boom. An idea hits us like a flash of lightning.
What just happened? We’ve moved through three of the four stages of the flow cycle: from “struggle” to … continue reading
1: We’ve all experienced the joy of “being in the zone.”
We’re entirely focused on the task at hand. We have a heightened sense of clarity and creativity. We’re focused, deliberate, intentional. Time slows down. There’s a sense of peace and a feeling of being in control.
The psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi first coined the phrase “flow state” in 1975. Mihaly, known as the “father of flow,” defines it as “a … continue reading
