1: Why pay attention to the stories you are telling yourself?

And why devote the time, effort, and energy to change these stories?

It’s not going to be easy, Crucial Conversations authors Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, and Emily Gregory warn us.

There are two reasons you may want to change the stories you are telling yourself:

Reason #1: Bad results.

Maybe you … continue reading

1: Interested in learning the secrets of life?

Searching for pure truth?

Would you like to fill your soul “with an understanding of love that knows no boundaries?” Diane Button asks in her book  What Matters Most: Lessons the Dying Teach Us About Living.

Answers to these questions can come from spending time with those near death.

As an end-of-life doula, Diane spends many hours with people in their … continue reading

1: What’s the secret to a happy marriage?

Want to be thought of as more creative and effective at work?

Would you like to be less vulnerable to anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder?

Research shows there’s a simple way to increase the likelihood of these outcomes.

How? Simply increase the ratio of positive to negative emotions in your life.

“A myriad of studies show that having more positive emotions, … continue reading

1: “Why is it so hard to let go?” Marilyn said.

Marilyn was ninety-six years old. A naturally curious person, she had engaged Diane Button, an end-of-life doula, because she wanted to die well.

“She was willing and even excited to do the work to make that happen,” Diane writes in her wonderful book What Matters Most: Lessons the Dying Teach Us About Living.

Initially, Marilyn told Diane … continue reading

How to Promote Calm: Science-Backed Breathing

1: Stress gets a bad name.

Like many things in life, the Goldilocks rule applies here.

Too much stress.  Not good.  In fact, it will kill us.

But too little stress is not good either.

To perform at our best, we want to harness stress and use it to our advantage.

Or as Goldilocks says, “Not too hot. Not too cold. Just right.”

“Stress … continue reading

1: Ben Horowitz had been set up on a blind date by his friend and high school football teammate Claude Shaw.

It was the summer of 1986, and Ben had just finished his sophomore year of college at Columbia University and was living in Los Angeles with his father.

This would be a double date, and Ben and Claude decided to prepare an elaborate dinner for Claude’s girlfriend, Jackie Williams, … continue reading

1: “John D. Rockefeller was one of the most successful—and ruthless—businessmen in history,”Sahil Bloom writes in his book The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

After growing up in humble, unstable circumstances, John built Standard Oil into “a gargantuan conglomerate with immense global reach and outsize influence in all manner of world affairs,” Sahil observes.

To put his wealth into perspective, by … continue reading

1: “We do not learn from experience,” John Dewey tells us.  “We learn from reflecting on experience.”

Yes, indeed.  

But life moves fast.  And without the right toolset, it’s easy to overlook the reflection piece and miss out on the learning.  

To address this problem, author Anne-Laure Le Cunff has developed a weekly process she calls “Plus Minus Next,” a simple yet powerful tool designed to spark reflection … continue reading

1: Psychologist John Gottman can predict who will eventually get divorced a stunning 94 percent of the time.

In a pioneering 1992 study, John and his team interviewed fifty-two married couples.

They asked each couple “a variety of questions about how they met, why they decided to get married, and what changes their relationships had been through and observed them as they took part in a fifteen-minute discussion about a … continue reading

1: Is this person supportive? Ambivalent? Or demeaning?

How often do I interact with them—frequently or infrequently?

These are the two questions Sahil Bloom suggests we ask, as outlined in his book, The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

We begin by making a list of the key relationships in our lives.

“These can include family, friends, partner, or coworker relationships,” Sahil writes. “For … continue reading