1: For several years, Sahil Bloom struggled to connect with his wife during difficult times, he writes in The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

Then, he heard about a book by a Baptist pastor, Gary Chapman, called The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.

Gary suggests that there are five distinct love languages that describe … continue reading

This week and next we are exploring Sahil Bloom’s concept of “Social Wealth” as outlined in his book The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

Today we turn to a list of “Social Wealth Hacks I Wish I Knew at Twenty-Two” which Sahil put together with Arthur C. Brooks, social scientist, Harvard Business School professor, and number one New York Times bestselling … continue reading

1: Hurry.  Hurry. Hurry. 

That’s the reality of the life we know. 

“If there’s anything we pick up from reading the four Gospels,” however, John Mark Comer writes in The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, “it’s that Jesus was rarely in a hurry.”

“Can you imagine a stressed-out Jesus?” he asks.  “Snapping at Mary Magdalene after a long day, ‘I can’t believe you dropped the hummus.’  Sighing, and saying to … continue reading

“Were we to meet this figure socially, this accusatory character, this internal critic, this unrelenting fault-finder, we would think there was something wrong with him. He would just be boring and cruel. We might think that something terrible had happened to him, that he was living in the aftermath, the fallout, of some catastrophe. And we would be right.” -Adam Phillips

1: “Inspiration is for amateurs – the rest of … continue reading

1: When someone isn’t succeeding at work, they typically fall into one of two camps,  Will Guidara writes in his terrific book, Unreasonable Hospitality: The Remarkable Power of Giving People More Than They Expect.

The ones who are trying.  And the ones who are not.

“The end result may be similar, but the two need to be handled differently,” Will writes. 

We have to “move heaven and earth to … continue reading

1: “Everyone who was anyone in Hollywood ate lunch at Spago,”  Will Guidara writes in his book, Unreasonable Hospitality: The Remarkable Power of Giving People More Than They Expect.

The restaurant was “the crown jewel of an empire presided over by Chef Wolfgang Puck,” he notes, “who had revolutionized American dining by popularizing California cuisine.”

It was the summer after Will graduated from high school.  He was working … continue reading

1: It was the early 1970s, and cognitive psychologist Virginia Valian was stuck.

She “found herself so paralyzed by work anxiety that she couldn’t write a word of her PhD thesis,” Oliver Burkeman writes in Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts.  

Our lives can be shaped by what it is we are trying to avoid, Oliver observes. “We talk about … continue reading

1: What happens when we try to control the uncontrollable?

Nothing good.

“The Genius Move,” Gay Hendricks writes in  The Genius Zone, “is when we let go of our effort to control the uncontrollable and feel the new space of creative aliveness open up inside us.”

Yesterday, we reviewed the specific five steps of what Gay calls “The Genius Move:”

Step 1: Notice we’re feeling unhappy, … continue reading

1: Maury was referred to Gay Hendricks by a local psychologist who had read about Gay’s work with breathing and anxiety.

Maury explained how his anxiety was blocking his professional advancement.

“It took only ten seconds to see what the real problem was,” Gay writes in The Genius Zone. “He held his breath against his feelings. I noticed right away that when he talked about his anxiety, he … continue reading

1: Gay Hendricks had just delivered his first speech to a professional audience.

A man approached the podium and said, “I really enjoyed your talk.  It wasn’t so much what you said but the way you said it,” Gay writes in his book The Genius Zone.

Gay had always been nervous about public speaking, so the compliment lit him up.  “What did you like about the way I spoke?” … continue reading