1: “To know a person well,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person,  we “have to know who they were before they suffered their losses and how they remade their whole outlook after them. . . 

“To know someone who has grieved, we have to know how they have processed their loss—did they emerge wiser, kinder, and stronger, or broken, stuck, and scared?”

Knowing how … continue reading

1: “Looks like pancreatic cancer,” he said matter-of-factly after receiving his test results.  

“Barbara Lazear Ascher‘s husband, Bob, delivered the news in the most straightforward way possible,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.

Bob’s doctors told him he had three months to live. 

Barbara and their friends “gave him a wonderful leave-taking,” … continue reading