1: “The writer David Lodge once noted that 90 percent of what we call writing is actually reading,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.

Because we read back over our work.  Continuously.  To make it better.  

Dealing with trauma is similar, David believes.  He calls this process “excavation.”  

“It’s going back and back over … continue reading

1: “To know a person well,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person,  we “have to know who they were before they suffered their losses and how they remade their whole outlook after them. . . 

“To know someone who has grieved, we have to know how they have processed their loss—did they emerge wiser, kinder, and stronger, or broken, stuck, and scared?”

Knowing how … continue reading