1: You’re angry. Lately, it feels like Phil keeps leaving the toughest or most unpleasant tasks for you to handle.
How do you respond?
You vent to your friends about always being the one who has to clean up the messes.
But what is it that you don’t mention?
“That you smile broadly when your boss compliments you for your willingness to take on challenging jobs,” Joseph Grenny and his … continue reading
1: “It’s a shame that everyone else is an idiot,” Tynan writes in Superhuman by Habit.
Pause.
“Of course, it’s important to remember that to everyone else, you are the idiot.”
It all begins when we realize that being positive toward others is a habit we can develop.
Tynan tells a story about a disagreement he had with a cruise ship staff member after he felt he was charged … continue reading
1: Many people believe they are the only ones who don’t fit in.
“Feeling like you don’t belong can change how you interpret everything you experience,” writes Kelly McGonigal in her powerful book The Upside of Stress.
“Conversations, setbacks, misunderstandings,” she notes, “almost anything can be viewed as evidence that, in fact, you don’t belong.”
“The belief that you don’t belong also feeds into many destructive states of mind, … continue reading
1: You’ve got it all wrong.
You’ve been taught that stress is bad for you.
This belief is harmful, Kelly McGonigal argues in The Upside of Stress.
“The best way to manage stress isn’t to reduce or avoid it, but rather to rethink and even embrace it.”
The fight-or-flight survival instinct is part of your stress response. When something major happens, your sympathetic nervous system mobilizes your entire body.… continue reading
1: “Shelley was speechless,” says Mike Oppedahl, the managing partner at GiANT Worldwide.
He had just introduced the 5 Gears tool, which we’ve been exploring this week in RiseWithDrew.
“Shelley is a rock star,” he says in Jeremie Kubicek and Steve Cockram’s book The 5 Gears: How to Be Present and Productive When There is Never Enough Time.
She’s “like a cruise missile as it pertains to … continue reading
1: What do you do when the battery turns red on your phone? You recharge it.
Yet, many people who are tired and overworked just trudge forward.
Which begs the question, “Why do you think you can force yourself to run well on empty?” Jeremie Kubicek and Steve Cockram write in their book The 5 Gears: How to Be Present and Productive When There is Never Enough Time.
“People … continue reading
1: “I love professional wrestling!” the man said.
Jeremie Kubicek raised his eyebrows. “Alright then,” he thought.
“The funny part,” he writes in The 5 Gears, the book he co-authored with Steve Cockram, “was that his answer was the last thing I thought he would have said.
“If he had stated, ‘I like to collect stamps,’ that would have matched up to my expectations based on what he … continue reading
1: Jennifer’s father was ill.
“The two things that he could do to improve his physical condition most significantly are to eat better and exercise,” she tells Jeremie Kubicek and Steve Cockram, who write in their book The 5 Gears: How to Be Present and Productive When There is Never Enough Time.
And, “the two things he refuses to do are eat better and exercise,” she says.
Jennifer … continue reading
1: Why pay attention to the stories you are telling yourself?
And why devote the time, effort, and energy to change these stories?
It’s not going to be easy, Crucial Conversations authors Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, and Emily Gregory warn us.
There are two reasons you may want to change the stories you are telling yourself:
Reason #1: Bad results.
Maybe you … continue reading
“Nothing in this world is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” —William Shakespeare
1: “Even if you don’t realize it, you are telling yourself stories,” Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, and Emily Gregory write in their classic book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.
Even right now. Even as you are reading this.
Yesterday, we looked … continue reading
