1: “To know a person well,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person, we “have to know who they were before they suffered their losses and how they remade their whole outlook after them. . .
“To know someone who has grieved, we have to know how they have processed their loss—did they emerge wiser, kinder, and stronger, or broken, stuck, and scared?”
Knowing how … continue reading
1: “Looks like pancreatic cancer,” he said matter-of-factly after receiving his test results. Â
“Barbara Lazear Ascher‘s husband, Bob, delivered the news in the most straightforward way possible,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.
Bob’s doctors told him he had three months to live.
Barbara and their friends “gave him a wonderful leave-taking,” … continue reading
1: 1: Getting better at getting better is what RiseWithDrew is all about.
Monday through Thursday, we explore ideas from authors, thought leaders, and exemplary organizations. On Friday, I share something about myself or what we are working on at PCI.
So what happens when we work on a team with a supervisor who scores low on emotional intelligence (EQ)?
The research tells us we will feel inspired about 25 … continue reading
1: What we feel impacts what we see. And hear.
“People who are scared take in a scene differently,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.
“Our ears, for example, immediately adjust to focus on high and low frequencies—a scream or a growl—rather than midrange frequencies, which include normal human speech,” David notes. “Anxiety narrows … continue reading
Turns out that being empathetic benefits not only those we engage with.
“Highly empathic people enjoy deeper relationships, exhibit more charitable behavior toward those around them, and, according to some studies, show higher degrees of nonconformity and social self-confidence,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.
This week, we are doing a deep dive into … continue reading
1: “If I want to know you,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person, “it’s moderately important that I know what you think, but it’s very important that I have some sense of the flow of what you feel.”
Yesterday, we began our exploration of empathy. “Empathy is a set of social and emotional skills,” David writes. “Some people are more naturally talented at … continue reading
1: The generals of the First World War were “educated as cadets in the age of the cavalry charges,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.
As a result, the models of warfare they knew were appropriate for the era of horses and rifles.
“But decades later, after they had become generals,” David notes, “they … continue reading
1: Peter Marks took his life a few weeks before his younger son’s college graduation.
“If I’m ever in a similar situation again,” his friend David Brooks writes in How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen, “I’ll understand that you don’t have to try to coax somebody out of depression.Â
“It’s enough to show that you have some understanding of what … continue reading
1: It was the spring of 2019. Author and columnist David Brooks‘s close friend Peter Marks was struggling with depression.
They had gathered for a weekend together. “My wife noticed a change immediately,” David recounts. “A light had gone out. There was a flatness in his voice, a stillness in his eyes.”
Pete told David what he already knew: “He wasn’t himself. He was doing what he loved most—playing … continue reading
1: “My most searing encounter with depression came when the illness hit my oldest friend, Peter Marks,” David Brooks writes in his book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.
“Severe depression was revealed to me as an unimagined abyss,” David writes. “I learned that those of us lucky enough never to have experienced serious depression cannot understand what it is … continue reading
