1: Getting better at getting better is what RiseWithDrew is all about.

Monday through Thursday, we explore ideas from authors, thought leaders, and exemplary organizations.  On Friday, I share something about myself or what we are working on at PCI.

This week we’ve been exploring ideas and lessons around becoming a better negotiator from Chris Voss, the FBI’s lead hostage negotiator, and his book Never Split the Difference… continue reading

1: Fear.

“We often don’t even recognize that the emotion we’re feeling is fear,” says Kristen Ulmer, one of the world’s leading experts on fear, in Steven Kotler‘s book The Art of Impossible. 

“Instead, it gets misinterpreted and redirected, showing up as blame, anger, sadness, or in irrational thoughts and behavior.”

To combat this tendency, we can develop an awareness of our fear by noticing it in … continue reading

1: Author Steven Kotler thought bravery meant not being afraid. 

“I thought that was how ‘men’ were supposed to feel, or, more specifically, not to feel,” he writes in The Art of the Impossible.

The two words that changed his entire relationship with fear?

“You, too,” spoken by big-wave surfer Laird Hamilton.

Laird was showing Steven how to jump a jet ski off big waves. He promised Steven … continue reading

1: “There’s a little gap, no more than a millisecond, between the moment a thought arises and the moment our brain attaches an emotion to that thought,” Steven Kotler writes in The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer.

If we are interested in manifesting the grit to control our thoughts, then we are wise to pay attention to that gap.

Because once a feeling is attached to a … continue reading

1: “This is Impossible,” we think.

We can feel the frustration building inside us. “The hard work. The long hours. The voice in our heads telling us to quit,” writes Steven Kotler in The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer.

If we want to be at our best, we must pay attention to our inner monologue.

“At the elite level,” notes high-performance psychologist Michael Gervais, “talent and ability … continue reading

1: Getting better at getting better is what RiseWithDrew is all about.

Monday through Thursday, we explore ideas from authors, thought leaders, and exemplary organizations.  On Friday, I share something about myself or what we are working on at PCI.

So, what can the FBI’s lead hostage negotiator teach us about having more and better meaningful conversations?  

As it turns out, a lot!

2: In many conversations, we tend … continue reading

1: The answer?

Self-coaching. Then, coaching others to coach themselves. Who coach others to coach themselves.  

I learned about self-coaching from my friend, mentor, and coach, Dr. Danny Friedland, who passed away 18 months ago after a year-long battle with brain cancer. He wrote a brilliant book Leading Well from Within.

So far this week, we’ve examined the power of: (1) asking questions and (2) starting with purpose… continue reading

1: It starts with intention, writes Dr. Daniel Friedland in his brilliant book Leading Well from Within.

Not expectation.

What’s the difference?

Expectation is outside in. Intention is inside out.  

2: We understand intention through the lens of purpose. Why is this important? What difference do we make? Who am I here for?

When we ask ourselves these questions (as coaches self-coaching ourselves), we tap into the depth and … continue reading

1: What makes a great coach great?

Being an effective coach is not about becoming indispensable. If our goal is to elevate the leadership capacity across the organization, we do so by learning to coach ourselves. And then coach others to coach themselves.  

I learned about self-coaching from my friend, mentor, and coach, Dr. Danny Friedland, who passed away 18 months ago after a year-long battle with brain cancer. … continue reading

1: So, what exactly is leadership anyway?

Let’s skip all the boring textbook definitions. In one ear, out the other…

Not management. Not being a manager. That’s an important skill. But management is not leadership.

Ready?  

Leadership is about the ability to influence others.

I like this definition of leadership because it’s simple.  

And, true.  

Think about it at a gut level. Whom do we consider a leader in our … continue reading