1: Something seemed off, Diane thought when she arrived at her client, Amanda’s house.

“I noticed immediately that there were no paw prints at the front door. Her house was spotless. The kitchen was uncluttered, no clothes on the floors, nothing out of place,”  Diane Button writes in her powerful book What Matters Most: Lessons the Dying Teach Us About Living.

Diane is an end-of-life doula. She sat with … continue reading

1: Ben Horowitz had been set up on a blind date by his friend and high school football teammate Claude Shaw.

It was the summer of 1986, and Ben had just finished his sophomore year of college at Columbia University and was living in Los Angeles with his father.

This would be a double date, and Ben and Claude decided to prepare an elaborate dinner for Claude’s girlfriend, Jackie Williams, … continue reading

1: Ever experienced a sleepless night?

Ever lie in bed “contemplating the end of a relationship, a job transition, our physical health, or concerns about children and family members?”  Diane Button asks in her powerful book What Matters Most: Lessons the Dying Teach Us About Living.

The next morning, we typically get up and start the next day. When we stop to pick up our coffee, the barista … continue reading

1: Consider the following two questions:  

“Where did you get married?” vs. “How did you decide on the wedding venue?”

At first glance, the questions seem similar. But if our goal is to start a meaningful conversation, they are worlds apart.

“Where did you get married?” is an example of a “stop sign” question, Sahil Bloom writes in his book The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design … continue reading

1: “I’m a fixer,”  Sahil Bloom writes in his book, The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life..

“When people come to me with problems, my bias is to try to fix them.”

Professionally, this can be a good thing.

“But when I bring this bias into my relationships,” Sahil observes, “the results can be decidedly mixed.

“Over the years, my fix-it mentality led … continue reading

1: Psychologist John Gottman can predict who will eventually get divorced a stunning 94 percent of the time.

In a pioneering 1992 study, John and his team interviewed fifty-two married couples.

They asked each couple “a variety of questions about how they met, why they decided to get married, and what changes their relationships had been through and observed them as they took part in a fifteen-minute discussion about a … continue reading

1: For several years, Sahil Bloom struggled to connect with his wife during difficult times, he writes in The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

Then, he heard about a book by a Baptist pastor, Gary Chapman, called The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.

Gary suggests that there are five distinct love languages that describe … continue reading

This week and next we are exploring Sahil Bloom’s concept of “Social Wealth” as outlined in his book The 5 Types of Wealth: A Transformative Guide to Design Your Dream Life.

Today we turn to a list of “Social Wealth Hacks I Wish I Knew at Twenty-Two” which Sahil put together with Arthur C. Brooks, social scientist, Harvard Business School professor, and number one New York Times bestselling … continue reading

1: Hurry.  Hurry. Hurry. 

That’s the reality of the life we know. 

“If there’s anything we pick up from reading the four Gospels,” however, John Mark Comer writes in The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry, “it’s that Jesus was rarely in a hurry.”

“Can you imagine a stressed-out Jesus?” he asks.  “Snapping at Mary Magdalene after a long day, ‘I can’t believe you dropped the hummus.’  Sighing, and saying to … continue reading

“Were we to meet this figure socially, this accusatory character, this internal critic, this unrelenting fault-finder, we would think there was something wrong with him. He would just be boring and cruel. We might think that something terrible had happened to him, that he was living in the aftermath, the fallout, of some catastrophe. And we would be right.” -Adam Phillips

1: “Inspiration is for amateurs – the rest of … continue reading