1: Things aren’t going well between Oba and Mari.
They’re about to have a crucial conversation, one where the stakes are high, opinions differ, and emotions run strong.
Oba: “Mari, I was wondering if we could talk about what happened on Friday night—you know, when you got home late from work and went straight to our room?”
Mari: “Oh, you mean Friday night when you were sitting on the couch … continue reading
1: Tom was at a crossroads.
He was 55 years old and had worked at the same engineering company for 17 years.
“Throughout my career I’ve faced recurring interpersonal conflicts that resulted from frequent ‘blowups,'” Tom shares in Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High, by Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, and their co-authors.
Tom took pride in getting things done, even if his approach damaged … continue reading
1: “Respect is like air. As long as it’s present, nobody thinks about it.
“But if you take it away, it’s all that people can think about,” Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, and their co-authors write in their classic book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.
“The instant people perceive disrespect in a conversation,” the authors observe, “the interaction is no longer about the original … continue reading
1: Imagine having a boss who regularly fails to keep commitments.
“How could you tell the boss you don’t trust him?” Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, and their co-authors ask in their classic book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.
“Surely there’s no way to say this without him becoming defensive, right?”
Maybe. Maybe not.
The solution is to find what the authors call a … continue reading
1: It’s Friday night.
Mari works as a project manager for a global supply chain company. Oba is a chef.
It’s been a tough year for the couple.
“A recession triggered a restructuring in Mari’s company, and she was asked to take on additional responsibilities while downsizing her team,” Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, and their co-authors write in their classic book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes … continue reading
1: What is a crucial conversation?
The stakes are high, opinions differ, and emotions run strong, write Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, and their co-authors in their classic book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.
The challenge is that it’s not always obvious when a conversation shifts from routine or harmless to crucial.
“When stakes get high, you get so caught up in what you’re … continue reading
1: You’re angry. Lately, it feels like Phil keeps leaving the toughest or most unpleasant tasks for you to handle.
How do you respond?
You vent to your friends about always being the one who has to clean up the messes.
But what is it that you don’t mention?
“That you smile broadly when your boss compliments you for your willingness to take on challenging jobs,” Joseph Grenny and his … continue reading
1: Why pay attention to the stories you are telling yourself?
And why devote the time, effort, and energy to change these stories?
It’s not going to be easy, Crucial Conversations authors Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, and Emily Gregory warn us.
There are two reasons you may want to change the stories you are telling yourself:
Reason #1: Bad results.
Maybe you … continue reading
1: Author Joseph Grenny had been married for just a few years when his travel schedule became hectic.
He and his wife, Celia, had two young toddlers, and she served as the sole parent when Joseph was on the road.
One evening, he arrived home from a long trip, Joseph and his co-authors write in their classic book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.
“Celia was … continue reading
“Nothing in this world is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” —William Shakespeare
1: “Even if you don’t realize it, you are telling yourself stories,” Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, and Emily Gregory write in their classic book Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High.
Even right now. Even as you are reading this.
Yesterday, we looked … continue reading
